How to Choose a Mate

It is a constant challenge in our daily experience to look beyond the evidence of the material senses and see the true character manifested by our fellowmen. The choice of friends, the selection of a mate, the judgments rendered in democratic elections, the daily association in business, all demand a spiritual insight if one is to make righteous judgments and attain harmonious experience. To measure individuals correctly, we must be able to look upon the heart and see their deeper motivations.

This is particularly true when young people are at the point of selecting their life partners and entering an experience that is both intimate and lasting. While few individuals measure up to ideal standards, one is certainly knowledgeable when he sees that he lives with qualities much more than with things, with mental characteristics more than with physical appearances. In the daily round of experience one finds that unselfishness is a jewel outweighing many more glamorous facets of personality.

If one is to realize happiness, he must prepare a foundation for it. Falling in love should not be accidental. While no one can pretend to calculate this experience with exactness, still there are some good sound ideas that constitute the foundation for lasting affection and harmony. Mrs. Eddy says: "Kindred tastes, motives, and aspirations are necessary to the formation of a happy and permanent companionship. The beautiful in character is also the good, welding indissolubly the links of affection." Science and Health p. 60;

January 27, 1968

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