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No longer addicted to pornography
At school, I saw many of my peers easily fall in and out of relationships with girls, and as I began to compare myself with these peers, I also began to covet them. I thought, “Those girls notice all those other guys, but why don’t they notice me?” I heard stories about some other kids having sex and wondered what it was those other guys had that made girls want to do that for them. I attributed my apparent lack of success to there being something fundamentally wrong with me, and consequently my self-esteem was very, very low. Around the same time, when I was about twelve years old, many of my friends and I were first introduced to Internet pornography, and that soon became a personal escape from the preteen and teenage angst of social drama. Since I’ve always had a strong aptitude for technology, it was never a real challenge to be able to obtain porn without needing a credit card, nor was it a challenge to keep it hidden from my parents and others.
Over the years, I watched thousands and thousands of pornographic videos. What started out as a natural curiosity in girls quickly devolved into a very cynical, insecure, and insatiable attitude. The pornography offered a five-minute sense of pleasurable, powerful “release,” but afterwards it would always drag me down so much lower—to feeling miserable, depressed, empty, and unworthy. For years I thought of myself as someone who would probably always struggle with this addiction. In fact I just assumed that most normal men looked at porn regularly but just never really talked about it. I feared being judged and ridiculed, and I developed somewhat of a hypersensitivity to any sort of criticism or rejection, because my sense of identity was so caught up in the physical.
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January 2, 2012 issue
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Letters
Shyann Cody, Bill Fabian, Barbara Lee McNabb, Norman C. Hutchinson
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Not cursed...blessed
Maike Byrd, Staff Editor
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Your freedom from sin – proved step by step
By Sarah Hyatt
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Freed from dark sexual thoughts
Name withheld
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No longer addicted to pornography
Name withheld
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Christian Science opens prison doors
By Gervais Sindayihebura
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A spiritual, realistic view of the economy
Michael Pabst, Nathan Talbot, Margaret Rogers, Lyle Young, Mary Trammell
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A universal love story
By Curt Wahlberg
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Wedding guests
By Matthew Mbah Udeochu
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My treehouse healing
By John Monday
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God's beautiful world
Eliza Lefebvre
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The talent show
Jelena
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Prepared to teach
By Hannah Mensing
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Interrupt violence before it happens
Maryl Walters
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A cup of salvation
By Kathleen Collins
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Teeth in their proper position
Amy Winderl
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Shelter the childlikeness in you and others
The Editors