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The power of forgiveness
When it comes to forgiving others, sometimes we rebel. Why should I be the one to forgive the relative who hurt me, or the boss who dismissed my obviously great ideas, or the co-worker who undermined me, or the inconsiderate neighbor? Didn't they commit the wrong? I'll forgive them when they change, or stop hurting me —or ask for forgiveness!
But they aren't the ones stewing about the situation. They aren't hurt or offended in the least. We're the ones who want to feel free mentally and emotionally. That's why we should forgive. We don't need to suffer for another person's anger or misunderstanding or selfishness. Ultimately the decision becomes, "Who's in charge of my thoughts and emotions? Somebody else or me?" I don't need to wait for someone else to change before I stop feeling miserable. I can cease feeling resentment at any point.
To forgive, in the Greek, means "to let go." It benefits me to let go of hurt feelings and resentment. To hold on to unintentional or intentional hurts will only impede my own progress. But forgiveness isn't just in the words. It's in the heart. I know a woman who took Jesus' instruction to Peter that he forgive "seventy times seven" (Matt. 18:22) literally. She wrote 490 times on sheets of paper "I forgive so-and-so." But it didn't change her heart. In fact, she felt increased justification for harboring bitterness, since she felt she had obeyed Jesus. It's not the words or obeying the letter of the moral law, but the spirit of Christ that enables us to deeply and permanently forgive.
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September 3, 2001 issue
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Who knows what this guy is dealing with?
Dave Hohle
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YOUR LETTERS
with contributions from Patricia Herlinger, David Chester Smith, Linda Jarvis Snorek, John Holmstrom
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items of interest
with contributions from Jon Jeter, Robert D. Enright, Richard P. Fitzgibbons, Marc Gunther, Amy E. Dean
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'Why should I forgive you?'
By Robert Enright
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I NEEDED TO HEAL MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD
Ryder Stevens
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The power of forgiveness
By Elise L. Moore
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YOU CAN GO HOME AGAIN
David G. Shields
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Words of love that grabbed world attention
By Gay Bryant
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I had wanted to forgive her all along
By Jenny Sawyer
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Getting off the roller coaster
By Richard Bergenheim
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When I needed help... God was there for me
By Jane Toler
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Grateful hearts
By Judy V. Little
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Inspiration—a breath of fresh air
Frances Hunt
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Danger and violence defused
Valdir Iamnhuqui with contributions from Margareth Aparecida Vancetto
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Broken bones healed through prayer
Beverly Maw
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Notices
with contributions from The Christian Science Board of Directors
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Balanced lives in the emerging economy
Russ Gerber