I felt he was going to hit on me

Flávio Colombini—São Paulo, Brazil

When I was a freshman in film school, some of the senior students were producing a short film, and I volunteered to help as part of the crew. That was the first production I had ever worked on. One of the senior students, a very nice guy, was teaching me how to do my job. Sometimes when we were working together, I had the impression he was gay.

While we were shooting the film in a small town, the crew stayed at a local hotel. One night this guy asked to talk with me. I somehow felt he was going to hit on me. So immediately I reached out to God with my whole heart for help and guidance.

He started right out by saying that he was gay and wanted to have sex with me. My impulse at that moment was to be aggressive, to curse him, and get away from him. But I rejected that. I followed a divine inspiration to be patient and loving to him. So I calmly refused his invitation. I simply said I didn't want to have sex with a man.

But he kept on trying to convince me. He used many different arguments to make me change my mind.

I was very uncomfortable with this whole thing, but I refused to hate him or see him as less than a child of God. I felt a strong inspiration to see him as God sees him, pure and good—and to love him spiritually as God loves him. I kindly and patiently kept on giving reasons why I didn't want to be in a gay relationship. I was speaking from my heart and being completely honest with him. I said I respected him and would continue to be his friend.

After a while he stopped insisting, and instead started to thank me for being calm and kind to him. Then we began having a really nice and friendly conversation. I felt so relieved and happy, because a situation that could have resulted in anger and bitterness became the beginning of a nice friendship.

Later on, he invited me to edit the film with him, which was a great learning opportunity for me. We worked together for another month, and he never again tried to hit on me. I respected him and he respected me. And we've been friends ever since.

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