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Love doesn't leave us when a person does
Originally appeared on spirituality.com
I’d wanted to be married and have children ever since I played house as a little girl. It was my favorite game. After my mother died and my father remarried, my home life was unsettled for the first time. Not long afterward, I married my first husband. Looking back now, I can see that I thought marriage would bring the stability and safety I craved.
I was a bit disillusioned to find that marriage didn’t make my whole life automatically better. But I told myself that this was just how life was; this wasn’t the movies, after all. After this marriage ended in divorce, finding a man to share my life with went back to the top of my list of things to accomplish. I just wanted to do it better, to be more successful at being part of a couple.
This time I had more realistic expectations, I thought, and I felt better able to contribute to a solid relationship. I had a stronger sense of individuality and rather than needing a partner, as before, I wanted one.
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