Article March 15, 1999 Issue

Being appreciated

What I learned about self–worth from gems

By Peter Ward Eselgroth

I was doing things in my job that I thought were worthwhile, but they weren't being acknowledged. I felt unappreciated at work and in personal relationships. In many ways, all aspects of my life had reached an all–time low. Although I had never considered suicide as a way out, I could understand, as never before, how one might be tempted that way. But I reached out to God with all my heart for an answer. I continued doing the things that had to be done each day and endeavoring to keep my head above water.

Some weeks later, I noticed a book about gems that belonged to one of my sons. I was interested in its explanation of what distinguishes gems from other stones. Gems are highly resistant to abrasive and corrosive elements. They have a natural toughness to substances and forces that would damage other stones. They also have unique features such as their sparkle, brilliance, and beautiful colors.

There was a parallel between the special qualities of gems and the kind of mental integrity that I needed to maintain. I needed to resist the kinds of corrosive thoughts that would dull my consciousness, such as self–pity, thoughts of professional or personal inadequacy, lack, covetousness, envy, and a multitude of negative thoughts that seem to bombard us at times. In short, I needed to appreciate my own gem qualities by exercising them.

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