"My identity is not the product of how other people see me"

If you yearn to feel more loved and valued, you're not alone. Who hasn't wondered at times whether he or she really matters? Looking to advertising and movies and popular opinion for a sense of our worth, we're bound to come away feeling we don't measure up—that we're just not smart enough or attractive enough or.... The problem is we're looking in the wrong places! As we look to God, our creator, who is Truth itself, we discover how significant and remarkable and beautiful we really are as the children of God.

Amy Dresser is a student at a university in New York State. During high school she had to face doubts and concerns about her identity and her worth, but she found some answers through her study of Christian Science. Amy has agreed to share her comments with Sentinel readers.

I remember as a freshman in high school being really concerned with the way people saw me. I spent a lot of time worrying about what I looked like, who my friends were, if I had a boyfriend or not. I think a lot of kids are dealing with that. It's not always a really obvious from of pressure. It's subtle, I think. It seems that you're expected to look a certain way or act a certain way, or have a certain number of friends or a certain group of friends. I've changed a lot. I think what helped me was just, little by little, realizing that my identity is not the product of how other people see me.

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"Who am I?"
August 24, 1992

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