"Breaking Up Is Becoming Harder to Do"

The New York Times

"The idea of working at marriage is in vogue."

"Therapists say many couples struggle harder and longer to stay together than they might have a few years ago. Poll takers find a greater value being placed on the idea of commitment and a happy marriage.

"'I think there is definitely a turning away from the acceptability of divorce and from minimizing the impact of divorce,' said Bickley Townsend, a vice president for the Roper Organization in New York, which polls people on social attitudes.

"... Michele Weiner-Davis, a therapist in Woodstock, Ill., ... said ... she has seen many people discover that divorce does not solve their problems.

"'In the 60's and 70's,' she said, 'people really thought that the cause of their unhappiness was their spouse. ...'

"William J. Doherty, director of the marriage and family therapy program at the University of Minnesota in St. Paul, ... said, '[Couples today] may try harder to make it work.'"

Copyright © 1991 by The New York Times Company. Reprinted by permission.

More than taste-testing the book
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