Article February 8, 2021 Issue

From pressure to patience

This was what I had actually been wanting this whole time—to feel and know Love better.

Emma Herman

I’ve entered a phase in my life where there’s pressure to date and to find a spouse. Lots of societal talk about women’s biological clocks and the fear of falling behind can feel pretty heavy.

A year or so ago, I went on many dates, trying to figure out my preferences, “non-negotiables,” and deal breakers. Each guy had unique qualities, and I enjoyed many of my dates, but for one reason or another none of the men I met seemed like “the one.” No relationships really bloomed. This approach tired me out, and I had to ask myself, “Is there another path?”

I often turn to prayer when I feel defeated or lost or just uncertain. So, I decided to spend the next nine months in quiet prayer on the subject. I kindly declined any offer of a date and turned my attention to God.

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