PARENTING November 17, 2003 ISSUE

Adoption pending: Who's in charge?

By Cheryl Ranson

MY HUSBAND, John , and I own a fair number of guidebooks on parenting. Some have become real favorites. Not one helped, however, when our daughter Jenna's adoption bogged down in red tape and politics in Paraguay.

The first few months of the adoption process were easy. We treasured pictures of a sweet three-year-old girl, and mailed her photos and small gifts. In turn, we were sent reports about her living conditions and family background. The details were disturbing.