How can I stop feeling so ugly?

Q: How can I stop feeling so ugly?

A: When I was younger, there was a girl in my dance class, Carrie, who seemed so popular and pretty—everything I felt like I wasn’t. She had a cute haircut, and my long, bushy hair looked so blah whenever I stood next to her, comparing myself to her in the mirror as we learned our routines.

In an effort to improve the way I felt about myself, I got a similar short haircut. A few days later at school, someone told me I looked like a young male television actor on whom I had a little crush. I was mortified. I liked looking at him, but I didn’t want to look like him! Now I would have to go through months of awkwardly growing out my unflattering hairstyle and of feeling uglier than I already did. 

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