TeenConnect: Q&A February 17, 2020 Issue

‘This photo popped up on my phone …’

By Deborah Huebsch & Todd Herzer

Originally appeared online in the teen series: Q&A - November 12, 2019

Q: This photo popped up on my phone the other day. Of a guy’s, you know … thing. I don’t even know him and I definitely did not want to see that. But now I can’t get the image out of my head. Help.

Todd Herzer: As the father of daughters, unfortunately I know this kind of situation all too well. And I hope you have an adult in your life you can confide in about what you’ve experienced—even if you don’t have any evidence that it happened, because it was a Snapchat that’s already disappeared. Nothing about a guy doing that is right or OK.

Deborah Huebsch: It’s also understandable that it isn’t easy to get the image out of your head. I know what that’s like, because I had an experience in my twenties of witnessing something disturbing that was hard to shake.

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