Looking for the right one?

I was living in upstate New York. I had managed to get through undergraduate school and law school, and had a real estate development job in Rochester. But I wasn't meeting a lot of women. So I got to thinking about this. And when an opportunity came up to move to New York City, it looked like a great professional opportunity to work in banking, and I also thought, "What a great town to meet women!"

So I followed up on that, and I moved to New York City. And you know what? It worked. I met all kinds of women and also made a lot of new friends, both men and women. But I was interested in getting married and starting a family and doing those sorts of things. And so while I enjoyed making all these friends, there was almost an unconscious sense of pressure about the whole thing. I was interested in finding the right one. And as the months and years went by, it actually got to be frustrating. Some of the women, I was very interested in, but they weren't particularly interested in me. Others had some interest in me, but I didn't really feel like continuing things with them. And some of them I'd get to know, but they'd leave town. So the whole thing just wasn't working.

June 11, 2001

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