Article February 19, 1990 Issue

Trapped by marriage?

Written for the Sentinel

With almost one out of three marriages in the United States ending in divorce, it's comforting to know that the mental forces that would tear a marriage apart can be overcome through prayer and spiritual regeneration. The following is a special story of how one woman saved her marriage.

A Decade ago I was enjoying my three young children and was grateful for a good husband. But nagging, subtle feelings of discontent kept surfacing. I gradually began to feel trapped, burdened, and unfulfilled. What was wrong? Was I simply responding to the rhetoric of the time that insisted being a homemaker wasn't enough to fulfill an intelligent woman? Although I dismissed this as the cause of my feelings, still the arguments of dissatisfaction with the status quo of homelife continued.

Our marriage itself then became the target for dissatisfaction. Perhaps, the suggestion came, it was because my husband didn't share my spiritual values and commitment to Christian Science that I often felt alone, unfulfilled, and cornered. How much easier it always seems to blame someone or something else for our own errors or feelings instead of confronting the unresolved personal questions that are the problem! Working in concert with self-justification, soon moodiness, self-pity, and depression set in.

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