Article December 16, 1991 Issue

Are you a mother?

Is it possible to be a mother and not have children? Most people would say, "Of course not!" But I found a different answer.

I had always assumed that I would have children when I married. However, for various reasons, my husband and I did not discuss the subject much before we were married. After some years, I began to think more and more about having children. I yearned to feel the tender love so associated with motherhood.

The problem was that by this time I was fully aware that my husband was opposed to our having children. There were many arguments, tears, and frustrations. I could see that he would not be a happy father, so I prayed with much humility to know what to do. I dearly loved my husband, and I yearned to have our marriage reflect this love and be free of tension and frustration. So eventually—and reluctantly—I decided to drop the idea of having children.

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