Much more than my relationship status

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I wanted to be married. All my close friends had been married for years. Life had been busy; I’d been growing professionally and spiritually, dating and having fun. But I hadn’t yet found that special relationship that would develop into a marriage.

It was then that two important thought-changes clarified for me my own worth and completeness as a single woman. During this time, I’d been learning more about who I was as God’s daughter by reading and studying the Bible and Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy, and was making an effort to accept what I was learning about my spiritual perfection.

The first thought-shift, or wake-up call, came when I realized that whenever I saw a certain happily married couple, I would feel a yearning to have what they had. This was envy! And it didn’t line up with my desire to live a God-directed life. I saw how this was buying into the idea that I’d been deprived of something important—that something vital which others had was missing in my own life. Clearly, I didn’t want to hold on to and perpetuate that sad view.

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