The right one!

Brooks Anderson

There are so many questions and issues affecting relationships between young men and women today. In my own experience as a young person, I put so much emphasis on dating—I just threw my entire being into relationships, and I'm sure it scared whichever young woman I was dating at the time. There I was, the hopeless romantic, the martyred artist who wore his heart on his sleeve. I was in a search for a life partner, my one true love; after just one date I would be certain it was she.

With each successive relationship, I learned invaluable lessons; I was gaining priceless insight into true womanhood and manhood. Eventually I felt an incredible joy just to be with myself, feeling something of my own God-given completeness. It was then that I met my wife-to-be. What followed for us was different; this time dating was natural and effortless. Dating led to our engagement, and then to a happy marriage.

Is the realization of our own completeness as God's expression old-fashioned and obsolete in the nineties? No, it isn't. In fact, as a student of Christian Science, I've realized it's the key to good relationships. In proportion as we understand our true, spiritual nature—our Godlike individuality, which is complete, resplendent, and satisfied in every way—we bring the light of this understanding to our relationships. Rather than focus on looking for joy, integrity, love, purity, in someone "out there," we can recognize that we already include these qualities as God's image and likeness.

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