After I married and my children were born, a number of challenges emerged. I endured abuse from my husband, who at that time had a problem with alcoholism. I felt that my rights as a woman and as a person were not recognized. I didn’t feel loved or respected.
I had been studying Christian Science for a few years and had learned that these troubling situations can be resolved. God created man and woman in His image and likeness, and His creation is very good, as we read in Genesis (see 1:26, 27, 31). I was always declaring this truth, but the situation wasn’t improving. In fact, it was getting worse.
There were complications during the birth of our first child, and later she had some difficulties. For instance, in kindergarten, teachers determined she had learning problems and wasn’t socializing with the other children. It was obvious to me that the lack of harmony at home was affecting her.
For some time, I prayed to heal the whole situation, and even the thought of marital separation came to mind. In my case, I realized that this was not the solution, so I continued praying.
Citations in Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy helped me a lot because they pointed out that evil or discord of any kind possesses “neither intelligence, power, nor reality” (p. 102), and that “good never causes evil, nor creates aught that can cause evil” (p. 93). I saw that I was accepting this discordant situation as something normal, rather than accepting good as real and rejecting all evil.
With the daily study of the Bible and Science and Health, I discovered that divine Love is always present with us, providing everything we need. This included my children, my husband, and my whole family. We are all the beloved children of God. We are all included in this Love. From that moment on, I strove to accept only the good, only that which comes from omnipresent Love. This brought me a sense of freedom and harmony. I felt safe and confident that the situation at home would change and that my daughter would be healed.
I realized I needed to change the way I was thinking about my husband. I recognized that I had accepted I was a victim and that my husband was a victimizer. This was an error that needed to be corrected. I am a child of God and I am free, and my husband is also free. Neither he nor I needed to continue accepting this situation.
I understood that if we were created in the same way, we have the same rights; that as children of God, all good belongs to us, and in that goodness there is no place for abuse. We had the right to live in harmony.
I became so conscious that only divine Mind was governing us that I didn’t accept any thoughts that were not in accord with good. As I did this, my husband’s attitude toward me and our children very soon began to change. He began expressing respect, generosity, intelligence, love, responsibility, and care for all of us. He even stopped drinking alcohol. An atmosphere of harmony and peace prevailed in our home.
When our home environment changed, my older daughter, who at that time was five, began feeling the same freedom and expressing her spiritual qualities. I recognized that she was a perfect reflection of God; that she expressed intelligence and could have no difficulties in learning. Her grades and behavior began improving noticeably, and she became first in her class. Currently she is in college and continues to have high grades.
It is important to realize that God has given both men and women dignity, and we need to recognize and claim this for everyone.
I am very grateful to Christian Science for the harmony that now prevails in my home.
Mexico City, Mexico
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