You matter! Not only do you matter, but you matter to the most important force in the universe: You matter to God.
This was a “wow” revelation to a woman who had been born into a family that didn’t want her. Her mother was mentally ill and had tricked a man (who didn’t want children) into getting her pregnant, then tried to kill the child. The child survived but spent much of her life thinking she shouldn’t be here, that she wasn’t wanted.
When a Christian Scientist told this now-grown woman that she mattered to God, the potency of this truth sent the first crack through the shell of her self-loathing, eventually setting her free from the prison of believing she was disposable, unwanted, unloved.
The revelation of this idea can bring healing to anyone. Each of us is loved by God. The Bible is full of assurances of this. For example, in First John we read, “We love him [God], because he first loved us” (4:19). Though it seems as if everything we know about ourselves—our identity, whether we’re loved (or not)—begins at birth, this passage indicates that each of us is actually God’s beloved child for all time, even before we come into this world. Always existing in God, because we are truly spiritual, and therefore immortal. It says in Proverbs: “The Lord possessed me in the beginning of his way, before his works of old. I was set up from everlasting, from the beginning, or ever the earth was.… Then I was by him, as one brought up with him: and I was daily his delight” (8:22, 23, 30).
This understanding overrode and even erased any apparent effects of being unwanted.
To be loved by God is an act of divine grace. We don’t have to earn this love; it is a gift from our divine Parent. One aspect of God’s love is that it is knowable—we can actually experience it. There are many ways we can feel Love’s presence. Sometimes we have a deep sense of unshakeable peace or an assurance that good dominates. Unexpected joyful moments remind us of Love’s love. The list is infinite.
To be loved, among other things, is to be cherished, cared for, ministered unto. Each of us has always been loved by our creator, no matter what the human circumstances would indicate. Understanding our unbroken relationship to God wipes away the scars associated with unhappy beginnings and early years, as it did for the woman mentioned in this article. As she understood the true facts of her spiritual heritage, this understanding overrode and even erased any apparent effects of being unwanted. She found freedom and glory in the absolute conviction that she existed because God loved her, because she was wanted.
In the writings of Mary Baker Eddy, the Discoverer of Christian Science, she presents God not only as Father, but also as Mother. She writes, “Father-Mother is the name for Deity, which indicates His tender relationship to His spiritual creation” (Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, p. 332).
To be the child of a caring divine Father means that we are always protected, no matter what the circumstances, that we can never be outside of God’s safe embrace. Why? Because God is omnipresent. No matter how threatening things may seem, we can confidently turn to our Father for help. A hymn from the Christian Science Hymnal assures us, “None can beyond Thy omnipresence stray” (Violet Hay, No. 421).
Our divine Mother’s “tender relationship” to us includes caring, comforting, reassuring, unwavering love. Understanding this soothes our fears and binds up our wounds. Knowing that our Mother is tenderly watching over us comforts us in moments of grief, of anguish, of mental darkness.
Each of us matters to God. Every single one of us.
The nature of God is omnipresent and omnipotent. That means the spiritual qualities of God as Father-Mother exist throughout all time as well as all space. It helped the woman mentioned above to realize that in the very moment when she was threatened by her mother, her divine Mother was there comforting her, and her divine Father was there protecting her. Eventually this recognition freed her from the memories that had haunted her since early childhood and healed her of emotional scars.
These spiritual facts have enormous implications. For individuals who are not planned for, understanding the spiritual reality of our existence—that as God’s beloved child, we are always wanted, always part of God’s plan—can bestow confidence, healing any sense of insecurity.
And what about orphans, those who have lost their parents? What a comfort to know we can’t ever lose our divine Parent, our Father-Mother God. Spiritually, we are never Motherless or Fatherless. The same is true in single-parent families. We have always existed with our eternal Parent, and our relationship to Him, Her, is indissoluble. The love of our Father-Mother God is a constant, a discernible presence, one we can count on. It is not dependent on human circumstances, but is a powerful sustaining presence.
When we understand that our true Parent is God, we can find freedom to see healing in difficult situations involving our human parents (and our own children, as well). We can let go of resentments and disappointments because we recognize that all of us—parents and children—are actually children of God.
Every one of us, everywhere, is important to God and to all creation. In the same way that each flower is important in a bouquet, every individualized expression of God’s creation is essential and adds to the wholeness of the glorious spiritual universe. We are each important to God. We are each known by God. Each of us matters to God. Every single one of us.
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