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You're lovely, not lonely!

From the December 9, 1985 issue of the Christian Science Sentinel


The red light was blinking on the answering machine. A Christian Scientist put away the marketing in the kitchen and returned to pick up the waiting calls.

She listed the names of the callers with their messages. One caller said, "I'm calling because I'm so lonely. I'd love to have a little chat with you. It'll give me a lift." Later on, when returning the calls, she noted that the word lonely had been scribbled in such a way that lonely looked like lovely. By changing only one letter, lonely became lovely, and loveliness is a quality of God, divine Love.

"This is an angel message," she thought. "It will help me to comfort my friend." And for further inspiration she turned to God.

The comforting presence of His Christ, the spiritual idea of Love, filled her thought with these potent truths: First, God is our Father-Mother Love. Second, man is spiritual—always beloved by God. Third, man can never be separated from God. These truths, fortifying her understanding, enabled her lovingly to release the suggestion that her friend could believe in an existence of loneliness and isolation—an existence apart from Love.

Later, as she was explaining to the caller how that one letter had transformed the message, they had a hearty laugh together. She continued, "You can't be lonely now, because God loves you and you love Him. You're lovely and lovable. And you know it!

"In Science, you're always complete in God's kingdom. You're lovely because God created you as His spiritual idea. God is Love. You belong to Him. Keep on thinking of yourself as Love's lovely child—not a lonely mortal. You'll see the threat or fear of loneliness will diminish and disappear from your thought. Forever."

It is refreshing and comforting to recall that God is always right here. Omnipresent divine Love cannot fail us. Loneliness or the persistent longing to be with others doesn't come from God and is not true. No real thing separates us from the love of Christ, Truth—only ignorance and false beliefs that we can freely overcome.

Because loneliness is a false belief of separation from God, we should prayerfully replace the sly all-alone suggestion with the fact that we are beloved of God. We should pray to express the Christ, Truth, in every way, vehemently insisting in thought, word, and deed that we are truly never separated from our heavenly Father's caring love. In Science and Health Mrs. Eddy writes: "Love never loses sight of loveliness. Its halo rests upon its object." Science and Health, p. 248. The woman's caller began to understand that this is true. Gradually the subtle temptation to be lonely yielded to divine Love—and she was freed. Contentment became hers.

It's well to keep remembering that loneliness cannot be removed and healed in an anxious or in a humanly outlined way. For instance, through a concerted, limited effort to be friendly so as to gain a bevy of new friends. Only the spiritual way proves satisfying. Neither human success nor fame nor popularity can remove that miserable, lonely feeling. When life is thought to be confined to a material, shallow sense of fellowship and camaraderie, it's always empty and unfulfilled.

We need more than a flimsy courage that puts up with an unhappy, passive condition of loneliness, because such bravado may step by step become complacency, and loneliness seem almost comfortable to live with. One may even come to expect that loneliness will just go away, instead of resisting the erroneous belief that a lonely state of existence is real, is true. It isn't.

Take a fresh look at your true self, loved and never alone. Look into the mirror of Life—divine Science—and see that your lovely selfhood is the image and likeness of God, Soul.

The woman who had called the Christian Scientist renewed her true self-confidence by loving God more. You too can do this. The same wonderful healing power of Truth and Love that helped the caller is available to all. Know that you're closer to God, divine Life, than stitches in a tightly knitted sweater—never separated from His tender, watchful care. God loves you and all of His beloved children equally.

As Science and Health counsels, "Let us rid ourselves of the belief that man is separated from God, and obey only the divine Principle, Life and Love." Ibid., p. 91.

By daily spiritualizing thought to learn more of God and His Christ, you can use so-called lonely moments to great spiritual advantage. Occupy these times in prayer and in-depth study of the Bible and Mrs. Eddy's writings. As your understanding of Truth increases, you'll be able to lift others out of the doldrums of gloom. You can help them learn how to replace self-pity and fear of being alone with the inspiration of Christ, Truth. Mrs. Eddy's request to the members of a branch Church of Christ, Scientist, can be a guideline for each of us: "Forget self in laboring for mankind; then will you woo the weary wanderer to your door, win the pilgrim and stranger to your church, and find access to the heart of humanity." Miscellaneous Writings, p. 155.

The book of Psalms says, "Whoso is wise, and will observe these things, even they shall understand the lovingkindness of the Lord." Ps. 107:43. Daily gain confidence that it's the Christ, Truth, that lifts thought; then preconceived, pinched material standpoints of belonging will fall away. Trust God to bring you into the right, enduring companionship of friendship with Him.

Our divine friend, God, is always there. Not for a moment are we separated from Him, because we're constantly expressing Him. No one could desire a friend more loving, more loyal, more dependable, more caring than divine Love.

Should loneliness seem to loom up so large that it threatens to occupy thought relentlessly, remember Christ Jesus was able to hush the turbulent sea. You too can hush your turbulent thoughts.

How do we do this? By turning to God in prayer. Through prayer, the Christ gently rests anxious thought. The loving Christ comes to consciousness to return the maverick, wandering thought to the Father's kingdom of peace and harmony. Completeness is found in God, our eternal Father-Mother, and is the real.

Instead of yielding to moments of feeling sad, instead of giving in to that all-by-myself, no-one-loves-me despair, turn your thought immediately to God, immutable Life, and stay right there in the secret place of the most High. See Ps. 91:1 . Actually, there is no existence apart from God.

You need never feel lonely again, because in truth we all live happily in His beautiful heaven of harmony. This spiritual heaven of bliss, health, and joy is where you live. No element of separation or loneliness abides there.

As you put God first in thought, the radiancy of the Christ shines through. Just think of the wonder of constantly reflecting God, Love, never loneliness. You're always embraced and beloved by divine Principle, the All-in-all, God.

You're lovely. You're lovable. That's you!

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