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“Will you forgive me?”
I'm from Peru. Last year I attended seventh grade at a public school in the US, in the city of Boston. It was a big change for me. Besides the language difference, school was a lot noisier, and the kids were more concerned about the way they looked and the kinds of clothes they wore than they are in Peru.
One day I went to school wearing the same clothes that I had worn the day before to avoid having to wash them a lot and to save a little money. I had to pay to wash my clothes in the apartment building next door. One boy at school made a big deal about it, and he told me to be more considerate. I said that I had good hygiene, that I wasn't doing anything wrong, and that my clothes weren't in bad condition. But he started to spread this around to everyone, and the boys in my class began to tell me that I was a filthy person, that I was very stingy to do such a thing to save $1.25, and that they didn't want me as their friend. I didn't know what to do, so I kept quiet.
Another day a boy grabbed my drink and made an obscene gesture with it, and then a group of them threatened to beat me up. Fortunately, nothing happened. I felt humiliated, and I had to control myself to avoid fighting back and hurting anyone.
Things got worse every day, and I decided to tell my family about what had happened. They told me they would pray for me, and asked if I would like to talk about this with my Sunday School teacher.
That Sunday I told my teacher and we talked about how I could pray for myself. She gave me a chapter to read at home from the book Miscellaneous Writings by Mary Baker Eddy, about how to treat your enemies (p.8 ). One of the things it says is that our enemies are really our friends, since they test our patience and goodness. Also, that the way to lose our enemies is to love them, which is what Jesus taught in his Sermon on the Mount.
I prepared to go to school by thinking constantly about this. Although there were moments when I felt a little insecure at school, I continued praying. One thought I had was that God loves me even more than my parents do, so God wouldn't let anything bad happen to me.
That comforted me. One of the laws of God is the law of Love, which takes care of each of us. This helped me not get into a fight, and see that there could be only good communication, friendship, and brotherhood between me and the other boys.
Unbelievably, one day the boy who had caused me so much trouble came to me and said, “Listen, will you forgive me for everything?” I replied, “Everything is OK.” And, day after day, the other boys approached me and asked me to teach them how to solve some of our math problems. Then the math teacher formed groups of four students each and told me that I was going to help them, which I was happy to do.
Things continued to improve. Soon I was everybody's friend, and I felt more secure about going to school.
January 1, 2003 issue
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letter to our readers
Suzanne Smedley
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INBOX
with contributions from Patricia Baskette, Verona T. Garciar, Yamila Pérez Boris, Alondra Miranda, Thierry Nurumbie, Eduardo Torfer, Juan Antonio Idjabe Neara
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a letter from new york city
Megan Bumpus
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Talk about conflict resolution
with contributions from Viola Ehm, Enrique Villalpando, Solene Roux, Rafael Accorsi, Sephora Johnston, Juan Manuel Jara, Norberto Martin Suarez, Adam Deane, Mildred Laruan, Analia do Carmo, Geoffrey Hills, Sonaal Pannu, Dorothee Hiebsch, Joseph A. Gaddo
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Still best friends
Chelsea Rousselot,
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Fixing a friendship with your BF
Amadheya Nugroho
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“I regretted that I had retaliated”
Ellie Aylward
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Abigal & the schoolbag
Agnes Munee
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“The situation seemed impossible to resolve”
Solène Roux
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“Will you forgive me?”
Arturo Palomino,
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"Hey, Rebecca, did you hear about Eric...?”
with contributions from Madison, Sara, Henry, Lindsay, Abby A., Andrew, Lily, Patricia, Josh, Elodie
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What About Labels?
with contributions from Elodie, Varshana, Chris
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THEME: REFLECTION
with contributions from Pedro Victor Cardoso, Carrie Waggoner, Megan Shields
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An “amazing book”
Aminata Koné,
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My Saturday night video pick Bend it Like Beckham
by Laura Greenwood,
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Meet actor Michael Morgan
interview by Suzanne Smedley
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the poetry of dance
with contributions from Kristen Hugins, Katy Oyler, Brittany Maxwell
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Invest in your creative talents!
Hilary Wise with contributions from Storey Hieronymus Hauck
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true beauty
Daniela Wilbert with contributions from Flávio Colombini
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Healthy living is spiritual living
with contributions from Tanya Gnedikova, Jaime Leeann Hawks, Lars Oliver Bremer
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"I am a somebody — without the cigarettes”
interview by Michael Pabst
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“It's a whole other world"
by Suzanne Smedley
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Thinking out of the box about spirituality on campus
by Jenny Sawyer
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Caught off-guard by her love for fencing
by Jenny Sawyer
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A triathlete who pushes the limits
by Guy Walker,