Article January 1, 2000 ISSUE

Is he "the one"?

(written by a Teen Herald reader)

“Will you marry me?” were Nathan's words to me. “Yes, I said” (but with hesitation in my voice).

Why was I hesitating? We'd been dating nearly three years. It seemed only natural that marriage was the next step. What I learned as time went on, though, was that my uncertainty was not just marriage jitters. I questioned whether this engagement felt right. So I started listening to God to find out if this really was God's plan for me.

We set the wedding date for a year and a half away. I thought by then I'd be used to the idea. However, I began to ask myself a lot of questions. “Is this the right person?” ... “Am I doing the right thing?” I reasoned with myself that there wasn't anything wrong with marrying him. I assumed that every bride-to-be had asked herself these questions.

But then I thought, “How does the common notion that ‘when you meet the right person, you just know its right’ apply to my situation?” I just didn't have that feeling. But I trusted God. I knew He was speaking tome. All I needed to do was stop and listen He was surely guiding me to find my answers about love and marriage.

I had to totally rely on God's help Sounds so easy, right? I thought it would be. I thought God would whip up the answers and l'd be on my merry way. But it didn't happen this way. So I left my questions completely to God and trusted that He would lead me in the right direction, because I know that God is all-loving and all-intelligent.

I decided to ask a Christian Science practitioner to help me. I explained to her that I was confused about marrying Nathan and that I needed help in finding answers to the situation. She told me God doesn't answer us like a person. Instead, He sends good thoughts to His children. Thoughts that give us peace. They lead us in the right direction. I could listen to God in prayer, and I'd learn about His path for me.

An article called “God's Law of Adjustment,” written by Adam H. Didkey (who knew Mary Baker Eddy) helped explain what the practitioner was talking about. It said, “When we in our helplessness reach the point where we see we are unable of ourselves to do anything, and then call upon God to aid us; when we are ready to show our willingness to abandon our own plans, our own opinions, our own sense of what ought to be done under the circumstances, and have no fear as to the consequences—then God's law will take possession of and govem the whole situation.”

I grew more and more convinced that accepting Nathan's proposal had been a mistake. I was nervous about breaking off our engagement. But I understood that I needed to abandon my plans and opinions, and trust that God's law was governing Nathan and me.

And I did just that! I realized that marrying Nathan was not the path that God intended for either of us. When I made my decision, I felt such peace, l finally knew I was doing the right thing I had no doubts, hesitation, or fear.

After that, I found a wonderful job lived near my family, and began dating a guy whom I married a year later, All this taught me to go to God first in any difficult situation and to never have any fear about the outcome.

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