Though I had been raised in Christian Science, I was no longer studying it when I first met my husband. I had no idea what it was like to live with a heavy drinker, but I found out soon after we were married when home life became very difficult. I attended Al-Anon (a group for friends and families of alcoholics). Though they were loving and encouraging, there seemed to be little hope of complete healing.
Later, I again began studying Christian Science because of a need for physical healing (see my testimony in the Sentinel of March 26, 1990). With the truths of God and man we find in our study, I was better equipped to meet this drinking problem. Not only did I have to contend with my anger at the situation, but I also needed to learn not to feel sorry for my husband. It was a time of learning more how to see the man whom God created, where mortal sense sees addiction.
Eventually, I felt led to train for work as a Christian Science nurse. This activity helped me discover more of my own self-worth and be more conscious of my own thoughts. I remember reading Mary Baker Eddy’s statement, “Be watchful, sober, and vigilant” (Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, p. 324) and recognizing that this was a direction for me, not a method of judging my husband. It took great discipline to do this consistently, but it brought rewards.
There were many years of this spiritual growth, but what stands out to me now are the spiritual lessons learned of leaning constantly on God, trusting Him completely to meet all my needs. One day I was working out of town, and in my prayers suddenly realized the truth of this statement: “Soul has infinite resources with which to bless mankind, and happiness would be more readily attained and would be more secure in our keeping, if sought in Soul. Higher enjoyments alone can satisfy the cravings of immortal man. We cannot circumscribe happiness within the limits of personal sense” (Science and Health, pp. 60–61).
I could clearly see that my happiness was not dependent on whether my husband drank or not, and that God was there for both of us, right then. I felt completely at peace and lost all desire to try to resolve the situation humanly. When I got home later in the week, my husband reported to me that he knew he was through drinking. And so it proved. A couple of years later, he took up the study of Christian Science for himself, joined The Mother Church, had Christian Science class instruction, and trained and worked for several years as a Christian Science nurse. That was 20 years ago, and my husband has not taken a drink since.
Words are inadequate to describe the happiness we’ve both found through this healing. And it was a good lesson to me that time has nothing to do with healing—that the solution is always there, and we are supported throughout the healing process.
Glendale, Arizona, US
As Dotty’s husband, I feel if it hadn’t been for Christian Science, I might not have had this healing. She was there to help me find the answers to all my questions regarding this religion and way of life. I often comment that Christian Science saved my life. Not only was I healed of a long-term drinking problem, but also my thinking about marriage changed. I had believed that being married meant my wife was a possession. I’m grateful I learned more about how to love and share in our relationship.